LADIES COMMON MISTAKES IN A RELATIONSh!p
EPISODE 3
I still vividly remember that fateful night as if it was yesterday. The day i thought i was doing the right thing for the guy i loved and adored….
That fateful day was February 14th of my first year in the university, and i was a simple naive v!rg!nwho knew not that a guy could go any length just to take a woman’s most cherished treasure…….
Emmanuel and i had d@t£d for 1 Year and 3 Months prior to that p@rticular day, and even though i felt strongly for him, i never allowed him to go beyond k!ss!ngme, and he never bothered to go further, because according to him, he valued me more than satisfying his urge, which i really fell for, coupled with his humble nature and behaviour, without knowing that i was digging my own pit……..
On that fateful valentines day, he took me shopping, where he bought few clothes which he could afford for me, before treating me to a delicious meal in ‘Sweet s-en-sation’, which was one of the best fast food available in our vicinity that year…. We really spent much time there, eating, joking and taking pictures. I must confess he really spent a lot on me that fateful day, which really swept me off my feet and i equally decided to surprise him with a gift of my vir-ginity cos i thought he deserved it… (how foolish i was)
When we got back to his hostel later in the evening, i k!$$£d him gratefully while he held me tenderly.
“Hope you are happy?” he asked.
“Yea baby, I’m so so happy” i replied him.
Emmanuel really is a very tall and heavily built guy who was in his final year…….
He carried me up, k!$$£d me again for a while, before gently laying me on his be-d, and we stared at each other, while my eyes melted as his heavy gaze went all throu-gh my b©dy which s£nt shivers down my spine……
“I’m all yours tonight, but plea-se be gentle” i said to him, while he gave me a weird look.
“Hope you are sure about this?” he asked with an innocent look on his face.
“Yea as long as you promise to keep your word that you will never abandon me” i replied, while he smiled de-eply,
“I swear with my life baby, i will never leave you as long as i’m alive” he swore.
“Then i’m all yours sweet heart” i said with a wi-nk, while he smiled, and that was how he had his way with me.
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“plea-se st©p it’s okay” i finally pleaded as i strongly held him, while he gazed into my eyes and j£rked as if something had pushed him from behind, before lying on t©p of me. I closed my eyes as i breathed de-eply and gently pushed him away.
“I’m so sorry for hurting you” he apologised as he felt my face with his palms, while i unsuccessfully tried to fight back tears which finally dr!pp£dout of my eyes. Why was i crying? I knew not, because i gave him my b©dy willingly and not un-der duress, but i guess the guilt and feeling of losing my most cherished treasure which i had swore to keep for my future husband made my cry…….
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Emmanuel was very caring and comforting as he tried to appease me that night. He boiled h0t water for me, made tea for me and even held me all throu-gh the night. Truthfully he really was very ro-mantic, which equally increa-sed the love i had for him.
Oh! he simply was an angel that night and i was deceived into believing it was all real, hmmmm who knew how he must have laughed in his mind that night!
As the whole event pla-yed back in my head, i clutched my teddy bear and cried. Even though i had gotten over our break up, i still haven’t gotten over the feeling of losing my vir-ginity to him. How could i have known that it was just a game to him, cos he really captured my heart, stole my b©dy and swept me off my feet with his charms…..
“Dear lord i’m now in love again plea-se guide me” i prayed even though in my mind i knew my prayer lacked merit.
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Lesson 1: How foolish i was to have given him my precious as-set with the feeling that he will forever be mine if i can give him that.
Most ladies are still ma-king this mistakes and will keep ma-king it, don’t be one of them!
LADIES COMMON MISTAKES IN A RELATIONSh!p
EPISODE 3
I still vividly remember that fateful night as if it was yesterday. The day i thought i was doing the right thing for the guy i loved and adored….
That fateful day was February 14th of my first year in the university, and i was a simple naive v!rg!nwho knew not that a guy could go any length just to take a woman’s most cherished treasure…….
Emmanuel and i had d@t£d for 1 Year and 3 Months prior to that p@rticular day, and even though i felt strongly for him, i never allowed him to go beyond k!ss!ngme, and he never bothered to go further, because according to him, he valued me more than satisfying his urge, which i really fell for, coupled with his humble nature and behaviour, without knowing that i was digging my own pit……..
On that fateful valentines day, he took me shopping, where he bought few clothes which he could afford for me, before treating me to a delicious meal in ‘Sweet s-en-sation’, which was one of the best fast food available in our vicinity that year…. We really spent much time there, eating, joking and taking pictures. I must confess he really spent a lot on me that fateful day, which really swept me off my feet and i equally decided to surprise him with a gift of my vir-ginity cos i thought he deserved it… (how foolish i was)
When we got back to his hostel later in the evening, i k!$$£d him gratefully while he held me tenderly.
“Hope you are happy?” he asked.
“Yea baby, I’m so so happy” i replied him.
Emmanuel really is a very tall and heavily built guy who was in his final year…….
He carried me up, k!$$£d me again for a while, before gently laying me on his be-d, and we stared at each other, while my eyes melted as his heavy gaze went all throu-gh my b©dy which s£nt shivers down my spine……
“I’m all yours tonight, but plea-se be gentle” i said to him, while he gave me a weird look.
“Hope you are sure about this?” he asked with an innocent look on his face.
“Yea as long as you promise to keep your word that you will never abandon me” i replied, while he smiled de-eply,
“I swear with my life baby, i will never leave you as long as i’m alive” he swore.
“Then i’m all yours sweet heart” i said with a wi-nk, while he smiled, and that was how he had his way with me.
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“plea-se st©p it’s okay” i finally pleaded as i strongly held him, while he gazed into my eyes and j£rked as if something had pushed him from behind, before lying on t©p of me. I closed my eyes as i breathed de-eply and gently pushed him away.
“I’m so sorry for hurting you” he apologised as he felt my face with his palms, while i unsuccessfully tried to fight back tears which finally dr!pp£dout of my eyes. Why was i crying? I knew not, because i gave him my b©dy willingly and not un-der duress, but i guess the guilt and feeling of losing my most cherished treasure which i had swore to keep for my future husband made my cry…….
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Emmanuel was very caring and comforting as he tried to appease me that night. He boiled h0t water for me, made tea for me and even held me all throu-gh the night. Truthfully he really was very ro-mantic, which equally increa-sed the love i had for him.
Oh! he simply was an angel that night and i was deceived into believing it was all real, hmmmm who knew how he must have laughed in his mind that night!
As the whole event pla-yed back in my head, i clutched my teddy bear and cried. Even though i had gotten over our break up, i still haven’t gotten over the feeling of losing my vir-ginity to him. How could i have known that it was just a game to him, cos he really captured my heart, stole my b©dy and swept me off my feet with his charms…..
“Dear lord i’m now in love again plea-se guide me” i prayed even though in my mind i knew my prayer lacked merit.
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Lesson 1: How foolish i was to have given him my precious as-set with the feeling that he will forever be mine if i can give him that.
Most ladies are still ma-king this mistakes and will keep ma-king it, don’t be one of them
LADIES COMMON MISTAKES IN A RELATIONSh!p
EPISODE 4
Emmanuel really was a devil in disguise and after the night i gave him my vir-ginity, he changed from Emmanuel who respected my b©dy, to Mike who loves nothing but S-x, and it was as if his eyes opened after our first act which i regretted, and from that moment his attitude towards me changed.
This act then bec@m£ all he knew and he started demanding for it almost everyday which really shocked me, for i had thought after our first time that will be the end of it. I was wrong and it just seemed as if our first act turned him into a S-x add!çt overnight and my foolish self later gave in. I had no option than to oblige him, just to keep my man and prevent him from having external affairs outside. I just want to keep ma-king him happy.
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This really gave a big b!ow on my relationsh!pwith God, i never had time for school fellowsh!pprograms or Christian events on campus again all because Emmanuel was with me always, willing to satisfy his lvstful de-sire and moreover i felt tra-p in the relationsh!pthat within myself i loosed my prayer life and close communication with God. I really felt a hvge guilt in me, cos i willingly gave in to Emmanuel and now there is no way out.
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However he never did st©p caring nor spoiling me with gifts, but then every good deed or affection he showered on me, often ended up with him demanding for this ru-bbish act in return and i continued pla-ying along. He virtually owned my b©dy that period and i really couldn’t bring myself to disobey him even though sometimes i did try to st©p him from having his way with me. This would leave him gloomy for the rest of the day and I will finally give in to his demand just to make him happy.
I wasn’t really happy with the way things were going between us, because i knew God wasn’t happy with me, but i was just madly in love with this guy, i will say. So there was nothing my weak self could do
“What if something happens and he dumps me” i often did ask myself that period, but just the thought of it would s£nd shivers down my spine, and i would end up saying
“GOD FORBID”
He was equally my neighbour that period, which really made the clos£ness irresistible and there really wasn’t a way i could avoid him.
Mariam, my best friend, was also not helpful when i finally confided in her, but i really didn’t blame her, because she equally wasn’t experienced even though she behaved like a big girl…….
“Is he cheating on you?” she had asked me.
“No” i replied.
“Is he stingy?”
“No”
“Does he hide anything from you?”
“No”
“So what’s ha-rd in rewarding him with your b©dy, it’s not as if you are losing anything, moreover you aren’t a v!rg!nanymore, and even if you st©p having it with him from now till you die, you still won’t be a v!rg!nagain, free yourself and enjoy it jor” she had advised, while i stared at her and said nothing, I kept on thinking and pondering on that statement she uttered. She has won my weak-self with that, and i agreed with her costhe mistake has been done alre-ady (peer influence)
But then the more i gave Emmanuel my b©dy, the bolder he bec@m£ in demanding for more and it just looked as if he was trying to have it all before graduating, which really astonished me. I knew i would still be there for him no matter where he went, but i guess he didn’t trust me and i never knew he had other plans in his mind as he turned me into a love ma-king machine.
It soon got to a stage where i couldn’t take the ru-bbish act anymore, and surprisingly it led to our first fight.
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As these memories flashed back in my mind, my b©dy shook as i cried de-eply.
The memory really was so painful cos it was the first time a guy la-id his hands on me.
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It all happened one fateful evening when we were together in his room, he carried me on his l@ps and started his foolish act on my foolish self
“Baby you smell nice” he said to me while i blu-shed, and truthfully Emmanuel really is a master of sweet words which he always used on me. (That was my greatest weak point).
“What is it baby? Sit up nah” he said as he drew my hand in order for me to sit up but i refused, which left him extremely surprised.
“what is the matter?” he asked
“I can’t do it” i replied, and he smiled.
He was surprised, he asked why?
“I won’t cos i don’t like it” i said arrogantly, while he stared at me as i got up from his be-d and dressed up. His eyes burned furiously as he watched me.
“Baby why are you so selfish?” he finally asked,(what a foolish statement i wondered).
“You are the one very selfish all you now know is this ru-bbish act, just see how skinny you have become” i replied with a hurtful tone, which really was a big mistake and it earned me two powerful sl@ps on my face while i held my jaw and stared at him in shock and disbelief…OMG!
I stared at him angrily and in shock for a while, before rushing back to my room in tears.
“Baby i’m sorry” I heard him apologise as he followed me but i shut my door and locked it before he could enter. I really was so hurt that day cos i never believed Emmanuel would ever l@yhis hand on me.
Tears flowed freely from my eyes as i remembered how i felt that day. “Why am i even remembering all these?” i asked myself as i cleaned my eyes, but then it was my feelings for Samuel which was bringing my past experience back to my head, and i had no control over it.
I soon heard a steady knock on my door
Who was it?
Checkout in the next episode
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Lesson 2: All a lady earns from cheapen and giving yourself away to a guy is disrespect. Believe me, when you fail giving him this thing, he will dump you instantly!
WATCHOUT FOR EPISODE 5