WHAT DOES MY HUSBAND WANT?
Did I ever said my husband was my everything or he was the best among men? I plead to be forgiven maybe I was not in my right senses or even knows who my husband truly was.
The man I married was evil hearted and got no conscience, Ladi is an unbelievable human being.
In my widest dream, I can’t believe that my dear lovely husband will turn out to be so evil and cold hearted.
Let me say that life happens and I will pull through this no matter how long it takes.
I told him that I have retired from being a servant or a maid. Yes, and I truly meant it.
My focus was now centre on my children.
Is over two months now that I discovered what Salami has been saying is true, over two months I found out that Ladi has a family outside.
I’m moving on gradually and no looking back again.
After he was gone for two weeks, he later came back but hardly spend time at home.
He comes late at night and leaves very early in the morning.
I owe him nothing and he also understand that fact.
I was no more Miwa the submissive wife or the maid. As far as I’m concern I don’t want to care about whatever he chose to do with his life outside the home.
I ordered for more goods and it took a month plus to get to me. I stock up my shop and sales off some to retailers.
Business was moving on fine at my end and Ladi has not been caring for the kids like before. I was capable of taking care of my children. I pay their school fees and every expenses that is necessary.
Within the year I sell off my old car and bought a bigger one.
Most days if I can’t drive, I call Zoma the cab young man to take me to wherever I was going.
I believe everyone was living their life but no matter how I try to appear fine to the public eye I still cry heavily in my room.
I don’t share a room anymore with Ladi. I moved to another bedroom.
I was not as strong as I appear, I was not as happy as I show off. Salami cheer at me for breezing up. she doesn’t understand the bucket of tears I cry whenever I’m alone.
One day Ladi came back home with his mistress and the baby. I was not around but my kids were home.
I was in my shop when they came with luggages.
My first son has a phone which he uses to reach me. when he called me that afternoon to inform me that his Dad was home with a woman and a baby.
I have to leave my shop in the care of my staffs. Salami was around that day and said she was coming with me.
We drove back home and my son was right.
I saw the lady relaxing in the sitting room with Ladi.
She was lying down and used Ladi’s body as a pillow while they watch television and chew chicken laps and drink wine right in the sitting room. my kids were sent off to their rooms
Immediately I came in, I charged towards Ladi first.
“What is the meaning of this Danladi?
I asked fuming angrily. Salami was trying to calm me down but I was about to loose it all.
The Lady did not bother standing up from Ladi’s body. She acted like I was invisible.
Ladi tapped her to sit up and she gave an annoying sigh before sitting up properly. As Ladi was about to talk, his mistress interrupted and she began to speak with mocking tone.
“I believe you are Miwa. I’m please to officially meet you again after our first meeting at your shop a year ago. Well, like you already know that I’m Ladi’s wife and I also have a daughter for him. Being a mother to his child and a wife, I felt I needed to be in a bigger and better place. I don’t want to be separated from my husband’s property and since this is one of his biggest building, I should also have a place here and not out there. So, I’m back home for good. We will all live here together. I can see the house is big enough for everyone. My darling husband told me that you are a school drop out because you got pregnant. That’s unfortunate for you because you can’t compete with me in anyway. I’m a graduate and I know my right. My husband was supposed to inform you about my home coming maybe you will be kind enough to prepare something for us. I wonder why he did not inform you so that you can cook something for us. I have always had issue with him being so forgetful. I was so famished when I came in and have to eat the food available in the house. Your son said the food was for them since they are on holiday but I don’t care. Me and my daughter needed to eat something….
I wanted to pounce on her but Salami held me back. Ladi’s mistress was so rude and keep rolling her eyes at me as if I don’t matter at all.
I turned to Ladi who was seated unbothered and charged towards him.
“Is this how you really want things to be? Because I’m equally ready for anything you want Ladi. This house was built by me and you. I contributed so much money just like you did so that we will have something big. How dare you bring in your mistress into my home and she has the gut to eat my children’s food. Now listen to me….if you want peace in this house tell your madam to stay away from anything that smells me or my kids. She should get her own things and fix them in her space. I don’t have issue with her been here all I asked is for both of you to keep your distance form my stuffs. I will try and tolerate any shit thrown at me but I won’t take any on my kids. Warn her and make sure you harken to the same warning. I don’t look for trouble, please nobody should look for mine. I have accepted my fate but I will not tolerate any insult from you or from her. Caution her arrogance and make sure you sound it well to her hearing.
Ladi started talking.
“Miwa, you used to be very accommodating and never troublesome. Please try and accommodate Santi because she mean no harm to anyone. Let us live as one family and cooperate together. I’m not the first man that married two women. some men even have more than four yet there is peace in their homes. Miwa, please try and be a peace maker so that this family can work out fine. You have a junior wife now, be nice and accept her. I know you contributed in building this home but this is still my house and has my name on it. Please let us all live as one…I’m begging everyone. and if your friend is advising you wrongly to turn against me or Santi my new wife, is better you avoid Salami before you will start regretting it. this is all I have to say for now…
Salami couldn’t keep her cool anymore immediately Ladi mentioned her name.
“Aren’t you ashamed of yourself Mr Danladi? Because shame is catching me on your behalf. How can a man be so wicked and heartless at the same time? After all the sacrifice and everything Miwa, my dear friend did for you. You have the gut to not only cheat on her, got your mistress pregnant and married her but also bringing her to live under the same roof with Miwa. That’s the highest disrespect of all time. I have not stop feeling bad ever since I discovered the kind of man that you are. Is painful because I encouraged Miwa to respect your wishes by aborting her baby not knowing it will be one of the biggest mistake which she may never forget. I thought you were worth the trouble but you are indeed worthless…
Ladi stood up angrily, hushing Salami.
“Leave my house and I never want to see your ugly face here ever again. If this is the way you insult your husband don’t you dare try it with me because I won’t tolerate your nonsense. Get out right now…
His mistress nodded while urging Salami to get out.
Salami turned to leave I stopped her and face Ladi.
“Salami is not moving an inch until I decide so. I contributed so much in building this house with you and left it to be in your name because I thought you are worth it but just as Salami said… you are worthless Danladi. The stranger that needs to leave this house is your wide mouth Santi. Ladi you have lost the right to tell me what to do or my visitor. You just fetched an infested firewood, get ready for anything that comes after…
I walked out on them with salami coming right behind me. I checked on my kids before leaving the house with Salami.
I can hear Santi saying something to him but I pretend to care less.
This drama is just the beginning for the entire family. Ladi just invited the bad side that I thought I never had before.
Whatever seed a man sow, that is what he will reap during the harvest time.
Ladi have the guts to bring his wide mouth mistress to our home. She even have the nerve to eat the food I left for my kids.
Let’s see how all of this will play out.
Months have passed and my peaceful home was gradually turning into a war zone.
This is not what I bargained for. Never thought things will turn out so bad between me and Ladi.
If someone has told me that Ladi will turn out to be heartless human being I wouldn’t have believe, such person would have become my worst enemy.
Things keep unfolding every day in that house. Every day come with new drama.
I don’t look for anyone’s trouble. I take care of my kids and focus on my business but Ladi and his new wife keep getting on my nerve.
I can’t cook and leave it for my children. Santi finishes the food and starve my kids before I return home. To avoid problem, I began to dish out food for my kids and for Ladi incase he is hungry but by the time I return from my shop in the evening both my children food and the one I left for Ladi is gone.
She uses my things with reckless abandon and spoils most of the home appliances I bought with my money. The other day, my daughter’s hair bead and some of her things got missing from her room and I know who was behind it.
My second son was beaten and I saw mark on his back and face and when I asked what he did to get such a horrifying wound, Santi told me that my boy disobeyed her and she has to discipline him.
The sad part is that Ladi was there when Santi was flogging my son and he did nothing to stop her.
I have shouted, fought and reported to Ladi to caution his new wife so that she can stay away from my things and also from my kids but I guess Ladi only has power when it comes to me.
He is always afraid to speak up to Santi.
He hardly buys fast food again, I guess his business was indeed going into drain.
Ladi was only left with one shop now and a small warehouse. Ladi was gradually going down.
He asked me for money to restore his business but my days of stupidity and love struck is over.
My children’s school fees, lesson fess, upkeep, feeding and many other things was all on me now. I don’t have money to bail Ladi out of his brokenness, not again.
My first son was in a boarding school now. I have to change his school due to the war at home so that he can concentrate in his studies. He was writing his final exams.
Last year he did not do so well academically and I assumed is because of all that have been going on at home. I have to put him in a boarding school until he finishes with his final exams
I’m done been stupid and helping Ladi to build while Santi tears it down. Even if I have the money, I will put it to other good use.
He has thought me how to be strong both emotionally and physically and I’m doing just fine.
Yesterday was another round of fight with Santi and Ladi.
It was a Saturday and I took my time to make food for me and my kids. Santi came to the kitchen twice pretending to be searching for something. I continued with what I was doing.
I bought a new deep fridge where I store food for me and my kids instead of cooking every day. I left the general two big fridges in the kitchen for her and Ladi.
I make sure that I always lock my own fridge after putting in things.
As usual, I dished food for my two kids at home and put some in a separate plate for Ladi who I sometimes feel pity for.
I stored the remaining food in my private fridge and locked it up with keys.
I went inside the bathroom to bath and after I was done I got dress and went to the kitchen to take my own food. I saw that the key that I used in locking the fridge has been broken. I opened the fridge and found out that the full plate of food was almost empty even my grilled chicken and fish was gone.
I went into rage. My second son told me that he saw Santi breaking the fridge key with a hammer and taking the food out.
Santi warned him not to say anything to me or he will get another round of beating from her when I’m not at home.
Ladi was home but said and did nothing.
I went inside the master bedroom where Ladi and I used to stay before but now is him and Santi that occupies the master bedroom while I stay in a room close to my kids.
I stormed the room and saw her eating and laughing with Ladi.
I went straight and threw the food on the ground before stepping on it.
Ladi raised a hand on me and strike me right in front of Santi. He tries to push me out of their room after slapping me but I was not going to be humiliated by him again.
I was no more the cool Miwa that was submissive and obeys his every command.
And in the same measure, I gave him double of the dose. I returned back the slap to him in a double standard.
He was shock. I even threaten to dig a knife to his heart if he dares raise his filthy hand to slap me next time.
I charged towards Santi who was already calling me names and running her wide mouth as usual. We had a satisfying fight and I was happy that Ladi was watching as it unfold.
The television in the master bedroom got broken in the process, Ladi was trying to separate the fight. The children were crying and screaming.
My second son kicked Santi hard and Ladi found it pleasing to beat up his own son. He flogged the boy with his belt. I have to leave Santi and rushed to rescue my son from his heartless father.
I took a glass jug, the first thing that my hand get to and broke it into pieces on Ladi’s head. He sustained an injury and was bleeding but I cared less.
I gave him and his new wife another warning that if they want war I’m so ready for them. Any of them that lays a hand on my children will get it hot from me.
Ladi was cursing and fussing, but I walked out of the room with my children.
I had few bruises on my arm which I sustained from the fight with Santi. I washed it off took my children out for a drive.
I was not in my right mind so I didn’t go far so that I will not angrily enter the express with my kids and cause an accident.
When I returned back in the night, I was a little calm but coming back to the house always makes me sad.
Salami has advised me to move out. She said I should rent an apartment and move out of my home.
I don’t know how to do that because I was so much used to this home I built with my husband. My home of almost fourteen years. Getting a new place is another unexpected expenses.
My younger sister who is a lawyer asked me to divorce Ladi because he is of no use to me again but i don’t know if I’m capable of divorcing my husband.
I’m still thinking over this whole thing and how sad a place I call home feels like.
Every day has its own drama, it got to a point I can’t bear it anymore. I can’t leave my children at home alone because my heart won’t be at rest. They are either punished by Ladi or his wife.
I have to start making enquiries on how to get a place.
Zoma was the cab I used to tour round until I came to a conclusion with a cool and fine apartment for me and my kids.
It was expensive and will affect my pocket greatly. I needed to pay for two years before moving in. Salami encouraged me to do so and even wanted to assist me with some money but I told her not to worry.
I believe both in my God and in myself. I will pull through all of this.
I paid for the apartment, I did not inform Ladi about it. After he left for work one day, Zoma helped me to call a pickup bus that came to pack me and my kids load.
Santi was also out of the house with her husband. I guess they both went to their businesses.
I and my children’s loads were transported to my new apartment. It was so painful during the whole packing and moving.
I cried half way during the packing because I never bargained for any of this. I never thought I will leave my husband or the home I built with my him to a rented apartment.
I was left with no choice. I don’t want to die and leave my kids behind, neither do I want to loose any of my children because of domestic violence or carelessness.
My peace of mind and the safety of my children was very paramount to me.
I was going into depression and insane while living in the same house with Danladi and Santi.
They both wanted to frustrate life out of me but with me moving far away from them, I will find my footing again and gradually life will again have meaning.