My mind as a teenager
My dad’s mum died in the last week of
We all travelled to the village for the burial
which was on october 8/9. My family went
back after one month(thats the tradition) but
i stayed back with my dad till first week of
december when he was to report back to
i was on my way back from the church after
service on December 2015. I was with my
friends; Vivian and Ifunanya. We got to the
front of my house and we parted ways. A guy
packed his car in front of my house blocking
the gate,he was making a call while another
guy was adding oil in the engine. I frowned at
them and walked to the one with the oil;
Me: Good morning.
“morning to you. Happy Sunday.”
Me: I wish you the best. You know you’re
blocking this entrance, what if someone
wants to leave from the house?
He looked at his friend who quickly ended the
call and came to us.
Dera: My guy,any problem?
Ifeanyi: Looks like she lives in this house.
She just wants us to clear from the gate.
Dera: Hey! Nne sorry about that o. I couldn’t
find a better place to park the car. We’re
Me: Its okay. Just that my mum may want to
go to church and find it difficult to drive out.
You know,some of you may just park there
and walk away.
Dera: I won’t do that. My name is Chidera.
This is my friend Ifeanyi.
Me: I’m Rose. Nice meeting you.
His friend nodded and went back to doing
whatever he was doing with the oil.
Dera: So where are you from?
Dera: Ifeanyi,what was I just telling you?
His friend turned to us again.
Dera: We are just coming back from nsuka
this morning. We went for a wedding there
yesterday and our car broke down around 11.
where I don’t know. We asked her about any
nearest hotel where we can spend the night
but instead,she took us to her home. Her
husband is late and her kids are still very
young. The kind of treatment and warm
reception she gave us made me swear that I
must marry from nsuka.
Me: Wow. But most people believe that we’re
Dera: My dear,I used to do that as well but
after last night,nothing will stop me from
marrying from there.
Me: Good luck then.
Ifeanyi: What if he has found the wife
Me: Then he must be very lucky.
The both of them laughed at my dry sense of
Dera: Nne,you just got my attention,the way
you cautioned my friend,listen,if you want,I
can follow you inside to meet your mum so
you can see how serious I am. I like you and
I’m interested in you. Will you marry me?
I laughed hard. I even held my stomach while
I laughed. They looked at me with surprise
on their faces.
Dera: Ifeanyi please, am I wearing the back of
Ifeanyi: I wonder o.
When I got tired of laughing,I stood still and
looked at him properly. I guessed he must be
between 31-35 years old,he dressed richly
and he spoke so fluently,he wouldn’t go for
handsome but he was good looking.
Me: Will you now propose to any girl who is
Dera: I won’t. Like I said,I love the way you
gently cautioned us about parking in front of
your house. Some girls will start shouting but
you did not. Outside that,I was taking a call
but I had seen you with your friends and I
liked what I saw.
Me: You don’t even know me an . . . . . .
Dera: It takes a day to know someone.
Listen,I like you and I’m not even ready to
date you,I really want to settle down with you
before someone else takes you away.
No matter what I said,he wouldn’t change his
Me: Okay,I’ve heard you. But for me,at
least,let’s do this courtship stuff so I can get
to know you better. Where are you even
Me: Where is that?
Dera: In this Anambra state. Beside Aguleri.
Me: Oh! okay.
We exchanged numbers and I watched them
drive off before going inside.
I told my mum immediately and there were
smiles on her face. She begged God to make
it come to pass and all I did was smile.