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David never did disturb me again, he just kept his distance and avoided me like a snake which i very much loved, even though it really was very surprising to Samuel who couldn’t believe that David easily swallowed his pride and gave me up without any harm.
ONE YEAR LATER
Time flies so fast when we have our dreams up and running. I was soon in the second semester of my 3rd year while Samuel in his final semester as a student.
Our relationsh!pblossomed and matured into something so solid and sweet, despite the fact we abstain from S-x. It just looked as if i was created for him. His family accepted and treated me as if i was their daughter. They really couldn’t wait for us to finish school and get married.
I transformed Samuel from a quiet, cool headed introvert into an artistic, charming, noble young man whose greatest hobby was to love me. The clothes in my wardrope, the jewelleries, flowers, cards, teddy bears i was lavished with and even my fat bank account all testified to his benevolence. He so totally spoilt me, that i ha-rd ly ever t©uçhed the monthly allowance my parents do give me. My ego and pride were so high. I was envied by many.
“Oh what else could i have asked my creator for?”
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But sometimes no matter how ha-rd we struggle to shape our future, challenges do come to test our courage and zeal, always appearing when least expected, and only a little misdeed that moment could rewrite everything.
Some folks do say that ‘whatever will be, will surely be no matter how ha-rd we plan’, and some holy books do say ‘our destiny alre-ady has been written by our creator before birth’. Whatever the case, life is so full of mysteries.
The future i so much struggled to build with Samuel was completely jeopardized weeks into my 300 level second semester. I never knew my fate could take such a dramatic twist nor my past showing up to haunt me. Not only did it return to haunt me, it equally [email protected]£ to steal my soul, pride, heart and all i laboured for, without even a mask to hide its face.
My past c[email protected]£ pertinaciously for me when i least expected, and i truly can’t explain how lost or petrified i was when it [email protected]£ knocking on my door.
The shock, pain and anger i felt when i answered my door and saw Emmanuel (My ex-b©yfri£nd) smiling nervously with hands clasped behind him, was so immense that i couldn’t breathe for a while. The look of relief in his eyes when they rested on me really was undeniable. For some seconds i stared at him speechlessly, lost in thought and clueless on what to do.
He truly wasn’t looking bad, though a bit darker than when i last saw him. He wore a white shi-t, black tie, trou-ser and shoes. His features perfectly constructed and matured…..
How fast i noticed…
“Nooooo go away!” i cried as i shut my door on his face, dived to my be-d and covered my head with my pillow.
“How did he find me?” i wondered miserably.
I left my old lodge and changed my phone number all because of him. Seeing him that afternoon instantly brou-ght up old memories, drawing out tears from my eyes. I was highly demoralized.
“Mary plea-se open your door, i just [email protected]£ to talk with you” he knocked and begged. I simply ignored him and refused to open my door.
He finally left after an hour of constant knocking. I heaved a sigh of relief and made the sign of the cross.
“Lord be my strength” i prayed, because I nee-ded no one to tell me that he would return. However i failed to mention Emmanuel’s visit to Samuel, when we were together later in the evening, without knowing the reason (another great mistake ladies make in a realationsh!p) . Perhaps it was because i didn’t want to involve him in my problems anymore. A lame excuse i consoled myself with.
“Hope everything is alright?” Samuel asked curiously as soon as he noticed my abs£nt-mindedness,
“I’m having a slight headache” i muttered calmly,
“I have panadol in my room, let me get it for you” he sweetly said as he got up,
“No don’t worry, all i nee-d is just a good night sleep” i murmured and flashed him a smile. He shrugged and ru-bbe-d my back,
“Good night dear, let me leave you alone” he muttered and left for his room.
“Some lecturers are truly very annoying with the manner they behave sometimes” i murmured furiously as i left our lecture hall after writing a h0t impromptu test which i managed to answer only three out of six questions. I really was very annoyed and swore to anyone who blocked my path as i left the hall as if something was pursuing me.
A strong hand [email protected]£d me without warning, i instantly turned to lash out on whoever it may be. But I was stunned when my eyes fell on Emmanuel, smiling nervously in his usual way. I felt like [email protected] him but the crowd around us was much.
“Calm down my dear, things are not always as they seem” he muttered quietly,
“I have a story to tell, after listening to it you can then pour out your mind” he added calmly.
“I’m in no mood to listen to your story, i don’t care anymore, moreover it’s too late” i replied haughtily. I could have snatched my hand and ran away that moment, but i didn’t, instead i stood and stared at him while i calmly deliberated whether to listen to his story or not. Curiousity got hold of me.
“Don’t say anything dear till you listen to my story, it won’t take much of your time, you can go your way after listening to it. I only [email protected]£ to fulfill something i promised myself” he urged with a smile. I breathed de-eply, shrugged with a shoulder and followed him to a quiet, expensive cafe at the other end of the school.
I knew it was undignifying to allow my curiousity get hold of me, but i just couldn’t help it.
“Am i un-der a spell or what?” i asked myself as we sat down in the cafe, moments later.
“plea-se God don’t allow Samuel to see me here” i silently prayed with guilt….
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“plea-se be quic-k with the story” i muttered with a drawn face, while he simply just smiled, supported his jaw with his right hand and stared at me like someone with a whole lot of time in his hands,
“You really have grown into a beautiful woman, more S-xy and attrac-tive than i expected” he said with a smile. I frowned and sighed,
“Your plan didn’t work, you thought i will dry up like a dead leaf when you abandoned me abi? Mtcheeew” i poured and hissed. He instantly looked away with remorse in his eyes, but i felt no pity for him. His comment really ignited my anger, even though it was meant to flatter me.
“Abeg do fast and tell me the story, i have other things to do” i urged coldly,
“Your comments are just like a wh!p, flogging the living hell out of me” he murmured in order to draw out pity. I scoffed, shook my head and stared at him coldly,
“Thun-der fire you there, i just wish my comments could do much more than flogging your wretched b©dy” i cursed bitterly.
“My God! Mary you have changed considerably, you now curse and throw insults without fear” he exclaimed with surprise,
“Change is a constant thing in life oga, and as long as i’m alive, i will keep on changing. I see you have no story to tell, this conversation is over and never happened” i barked and stood up rudely. He instantly tried to gr-ab my left hand, but was unsuccessful.
“plea-se don’t ever come to my lodge again unless you nee-d a h0t bath” i threatened and walked away, while he speechlessly stared at me with a coloured face.
“God plea-se forgive me, i never intended to curse and insult him this way, but you know he caused everything” i prayed with remorse as i left the cafe.
I soon felt a strong hand gr-ab me from behind outside the cafe, i instantly turned and stared at Emmanuel murderously,
“plea-se can i have your phone number” he begged,
“Go to hell” i cursed, turned and made to leave. He instantly blocked my path and stared at me with prayers in his eyes,
“Don’t do this Mary, plea-se i have waited so long for this moment, if you refuse me your phone number, i will have no choice than to follow you to your lodge and kill myself with your h0t water, i can’t just continue living this way, not after seeing you after a long wait” he begged seriously.
I looked up and down with confusion and frustration quic-kly eating me up like hunger. I equally battled with my mind as i thought of the strategy i could use in discharging him.
I slowly held my pride, and controlled my angry spirit,
“I nee-d to sleep over this issue, i can’t just give you my new phone number easily, moreover you just appeared from the clouds after disappearing from my life for a long time, i will be in school tomorrow, perhaps you will get my number if we meet then, but plea-se on no account should you visit my lodge, that’s all i can say for now and i think it’s fair considering all you did to me” i muttered calmly. He shrugged unhappily and nodded with a faint smile.
“That’s fine by me” he accepted without another argument. I rolled my eyes and walked away without another word,
“How do i resist this idiot of a boy?” i wondered.
“I surely nee-d Mariam’s advice before i do something nas-ty, two heads are better than one” i concluded with a calm smile as i trekked back to my lodge that fateful afternoon, very glad i was finally free from his disturbance, at least for that day….
LATER IN THE EVENING, MARIAM’S ROOM
“Emmanuel is back” i whispered into my friend’s ear as if i was scared of calling out Emmanuel’s name. She glanced at me with surprise,
“Emmanuel! Which Emmanuel?” she curiously asked,
“My ex na, have you forgotten him?” i replied. She instantly [email protected] and held my left palm ti-ghtly,
“You mean you saw him?” she asked,
” He was in my room yesterday and even blocked me in school today” i explained,
“So what does he want?, how did he even find you?” she asked with concern,
“Girl i really can’t say how he found me, i even thought you were the person who helped him” i answered quietly. She gave me an askance look, smiled and tapped my left shoulder,
“Nawa for you, why you go think that kind thing? I’m very much surprised as you are, so what did he say and what does he want?” she asked.
“Usual stuff, he wants my phone number, he has a story to tell, he can’t continue living this way” i replied and mimicked Emmanuel’s voice. She laughed and [email protected] her hands.
“Abegi don’t mind him, better be careful from now onwards, you know how guys especially first b©yfri£nd’s can be, very cunning and crafty like a con-artist, moreover he knows you too well, so plea-se don’t even give him any chance to open his mouth” she advised.
“But how can i be able to do that? He threatened to kill himself if i don’t give him attention” i murmured,
“Then let him kill himself, supposing you died of heartbreak when he left you, will he be talking all these nons-en-se” she replied unhappily, while i breathed de-eply and shrugged.
“So have you told your guy?” she asked,
“No, i murmured and shook my head,
“plea-se don’t hide this issue from him, it will be easier for you to discharge him with Samuel backing you up, i’m talking from experience” she advised like a sister (And that was a good advise from Mariam which i declined, a great mistakes we ladies make when our Ex later shows from nowhere)
“I really don’t like involving that poor boy in my problems” i murmured,
“I don’t think you have any other choice, my dear” she concluded and stared at me with pity. I looked away and shrugged.
9PM, SAMUEL’S ROOM
I la-id on his b©dy, while he gently pla-yed with my hair, a gesture i always enjoyed, but that evening, i really was very restless.
Mariam’s advice kept repeating in my head, urging me to open up and reveal all i was hiding. But i couldn’t get myself to do her bidding, which really was the most appropriate thing to do.
A f0rç£ i really can’t define nor figure out, sealed myl-ips and locked them firmly like a padlock. Perhaps it was fear which hindered me or maybe it was my stupidity which pla-yed such a dirty trick on me. My conscience urged me but my strength failed me, while my mouth refused to oblige. The kind of f0rç£ which held me that moment seemed similar to that which often st©ps we girls from ex-posing our b©yfri£nd’s pals who made pas-ses at us. Only girls will surely un-derstand the state i was in. de-ep down i felt very guilty..
“I will talk to Emmanuel tomorrow, if he still insists, then i will have no choice than to tell Samuel” i promised myself.
A promise which left a sour feeling in my mind, but unknown to me Mariam had her own plans which soon reshaped and turned everything upside down for me….
WATCHOUT FOR EPISODE 19
Ladies Common mistake in a relationsh!pEpisode 17 & 18
LADIES COMMON MISTAKES IN A RELATIONSh!p